Relationship breakdown is stressful for everyone concerned, but when young children are involved it becomes far more complicated.
If one person has moved out of the family home, there is often concern by the other parent about the amenities in the new home. Questions about where the children will sleep and whether the children have what they need can often run through the mind of the parent who has remained in the family home. The family income is now split between 2 households. Luxuries that could be afforded before the separation may have to be foregone and it is common that the parents worry that the home the children have known all their lives may have to be sold.
The differences between the parents are often highlighted during the initial post-breakup phase with different backgrounds, parentings styles and abilities often being a source for further disagreements.
As solicitors, we commonly hear that the parents have different ideas about what the children should be told about the separation, that either or both of the parents have changed their work schedule (for various reasons) or that one parent wants a fixed parenting schedule while the other would prefer greater flexibility. Add to the mix the emotional upheaval every family member is feeling and even the best of intentions can be undone in a heated moment.
Communication between the parents commonly becomes difficult, especially in the period immediately after separation. In those circumstances it may be helpful to seek legal advice.
This is not to say that you want to end up in Court, or that the issues cannot be resolved. It is simply that the longer the parents are struggling to communicate, the longer the worries about the children’s needs continue and the longer it may take to find a way to peacefully co-parent post-separation.
Choosing a solicitor who is focused on what you want to achieve (and not on what will increase their own charges) will be one of the most important decisions you ever make towards your children’s welfare.
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MORGAN COUZENS LEGAL